non-verbal communication is not something that is new to us. in our everyday life we are using it to "communicate" with our friends or to strangers. just like when you are in the cinema and somebody's phone started ringing, then you will STARE at him/her to substitute your verbal message that "you are so inconsiderate".
when i entered SIM, I realized that everyone is using their non-verbal communication skills to observe or interact with the surrounding(including myself). Watching how people dress to impress, or dress to be unique. I feel that we seems to know who are dressing to impress or who are just dressing how they normally dress like. People who dress to impress will normally care how people look at them. (eg.they will always let people feel that they are very confident of their looks and care about how other people are looking at them.)
I like to look at pretty girls or girls that bother to dress up, and i seems to be able to conclude that girls that are really very pretty are very humble. They have this charm in them that just attracts you to them. They wont care how people think of them and normally they dont think that they are pretty. (humble right?) Just like people who are models or air stewardess might not be the prettiest girl in their town.
Girls that are not as pretty tend to like attentions. Not all but most. Girls that think that they are pretty. What I admire in them is the confidence they have when they are walking. When people look at them, they believe that people are looking at them because they are pretty. Even when the onlooker is giving the disgusted look about her, she will still thinks that people look at them because they are pretty and charming. (: That leads to perception. Everyone percepts things differently. For example, for what i said in the above paragraph, guys would have another opinion for that. Just like what is your definition of a beauty. (:
[[baby and beauty]] this commercial is from Thailand. i think it is super cute. even babies have perception. (:
Another type of non-verbal communication i would wish to mention will be paralinguistic. Silence communication. I know a bit of sign language and i see a beauty in it. It is gentle and so peaceful. Sometimes i even think that if u were to quarrel using sign language then we won't get angrier because of the tone of the other party. Yesterday, i watch a Hindi love story of a guy who fell in love with a girl who is dumb(cant speak). Her eyes are so scary when she was using sign language to scold the guy. *laughs*
[[bad breathe couple]]communicating through silence. (:
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I think non verbal communication and perception is somehow connected. When a person projects a particular non verbal communication, how we percieve it is different.
ReplyDeleteFor example: Many people tend to think that we dress up is to impress people. Well, to some extent, is true. However, I think that there are people who dress up because they want to boost their confidence. Or they want to have change in their life, and the best way to start is by changing their appearance, the way they dress..etc =)
joanne
Hmm like you said, there are people who are very self conscious, and yet there are people who can't care less about how they look. It's true that nobody can really define 'beauty' as one man's meat is another man's poison. I guess it's not easy to please everyone... Haha.
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, I feel that too much emphasis is placed on looks. Why does it matter how someone looks, right? As long as he/she has a beautiful personality, I think that's the more important aspect to focus on. Looks are secondary, as they say, beauty is only skin deep.
And yeah, i think paralinguistics is a very powerful form of non-communication. This is evident as in the past, miming and silent films were the main form of entertainment for most people. It might not be the easiest form of NVC to understand, but this form of communication, makes use of perception freely. It is entirely through the audiences' eyes that add meaning to whatever is being acted out. :)
this is such a down to earth post. there are so many parts of this post that true to a great extent.
ReplyDeletephysical appearance is a 2nd skin for a lot of people. a form of physical manifestation of our emotional desires.
to a certain extent physical appearance matters as it's a form of presentation and respect to the opposing party, and it varies according to the context of which we are dressing for.
so you can decide for yourselves that some dress up or down but regardless of which we should never let a physical appearance affect our analysis of a person's inner self.
but i guess we're all victim of our own devices.
yea. people who do know how to dress tend to attract my attention too. i would like to think it in the way that they have some personal grooming sense and respect for themselves.
ReplyDeletewell, im not referring that people who dont dress up having no respect for themselves tho'. but at least have the clean and neat look!
besides that, i dont think i ll agree with you that all prety ladies are humble. perhaps you meant those who are pretty but they themselves dont think so. its subjective again.
silence communication is indescribable. some people just dont see the beauty of it. but like you. i do. :))
Non verbal communication is being used everyday by everyone. Most nonverbal cues will come from our body language. The way we shift or move our body abit, it can be transmitting some message over to the receiver. Lets take giving a speech for instance, one may use his hands to regulate the speech by using hand gesture and make the speech more smooth and interactive. Sometimes non verbal cues may just come naturally to us and unknowingly we can offend others without the intention.
ReplyDeleteDressing up is very important for everyone as this will present our first impression to people who do not know us personally. It always tell people whether one is a tidy or messy person. Imagine wearing a crumpled shirt going for interview, how will the boss think of one?
However do not overdress as it can result in detrimental effects. It may make u the centre of attraction and put u into awkward spot. Hence just dress up in a presentable way and that will be enough.