mass media really influence our daily life alot. (:
i am like glued to the televsion once i reach home. (:
and when was in secondary school, my friends and i would always learn songs sung on advertisments. it was so fun. (: we even create our own advertisment (live ones) in class. haha. we can advertise for anything and everything that we want to. and we learn all these from the media.
true that we choose things that benefits us from the media. those that doesnt affect us doesnt influence. sometimes we wont believe that a piece of news is true because it is not happening to us.
media also filter too many news, which might be important to us. they refuse to let us know because they dun wan it to affect our thinking. and this make us exposed lesser to the "outside world".
luckily there is internet, where you can read news from all over the world. and the more you are exposed to, really makes you fear more. and living in this kind of fear is sometimes good and sometimes bad. it makes you either cherish more or fear more. like news of how many people around the world is starving. it doesn't affect us directly because we dunno what is it like to be starving, but, it does makes u cherish more. cherish whatever we have in singapore.
before i joined my volunteer work, i am someone who don't watch news, i dun care about what is happenin to singapore, and of course in other countries. then after i joined my volunteer work, i saw so many things happening around the world that i nv know. at first i didnt think about it, because i wasnt affected directly. but as i saw more and more news, i start to fear and cherish more. i cherish the fact that i live in singapore. in singapore, we didnt have to worry about natural disasters, we have food to it, we have shelter over our head, we can get what we want. but it made me fear, because i also know that global warming is affecting every country. whetether u are rich or whether you are poor. what have the poor done to suffer what the rich has done wrong. fear that singapore, a country that hasnt been through anything at all, to suffer because of being naive and being blinded.
it is good to live in "good fear", because you learn to find solutions and take actions instead of sitting there and wait for things to happen and regret.
the medium the media used also affect the way we see the world and affect how we perceive what is more important than the other. comparing an advertisement advertised on TV and on a small corner of the newspaper, the one on the TV would definitely attract us more. and we will remember the company and the more it is advertised, it make us think that "that brand seems to be a better brand". that might not be true, but people who have no knowledge about the product will think that way. although now we wont be so "silly" anymore because we research before we buy anything. (:
if u dun read up more, you will always think that whatever the media is saying are the only things that are happening. i use to think that PAP is the only political party in singapore. they control everything. and all great people comes from this party. which is so naive. because i didnt bother to read up. but when i grow up. i realise that actually quite alot of pple support opposition party as well. and views suggested by them might not be bad, but people jus dun wan to accept them because they are not the one controlling singapore.
mass media is created for good cause because it let us know what is happening in the world around us. but i also think that it is something bad, becuase whatever we know might not be true. and this lead us to discriminate a race, nation who are actually great nation or great people. (:
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
interpersonal communication.
I guess this is the topic everyone will be so interested in in class.
Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.
Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating
well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?
Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.
And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.
It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:
[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original MTV. it is with images of all the Disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.
Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating
well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?
Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.
And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.
It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:
[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original MTV. it is with images of all the Disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Non-verbal communication
non-verbal communication is not something that is new to us. in our everyday life we are using it to "communicate" with our friends or to strangers. just like when you are in the cinema and somebody's phone started ringing, then you will STARE at him/her to substitute your verbal message that "you are so inconsiderate".
when i entered SIM, I realized that everyone is using their non-verbal communication skills to observe or interact with the surrounding(including myself). Watching how people dress to impress, or dress to be unique. I feel that we seems to know who are dressing to impress or who are just dressing how they normally dress like. People who dress to impress will normally care how people look at them. (eg.they will always let people feel that they are very confident of their looks and care about how other people are looking at them.)
I like to look at pretty girls or girls that bother to dress up, and i seems to be able to conclude that girls that are really very pretty are very humble. They have this charm in them that just attracts you to them. They wont care how people think of them and normally they dont think that they are pretty. (humble right?) Just like people who are models or air stewardess might not be the prettiest girl in their town.
Girls that are not as pretty tend to like attentions. Not all but most. Girls that think that they are pretty. What I admire in them is the confidence they have when they are walking. When people look at them, they believe that people are looking at them because they are pretty. Even when the onlooker is giving the disgusted look about her, she will still thinks that people look at them because they are pretty and charming. (: That leads to perception. Everyone percepts things differently. For example, for what i said in the above paragraph, guys would have another opinion for that. Just like what is your definition of a beauty. (:
[[baby and beauty]] this commercial is from Thailand. i think it is super cute. even babies have perception. (:
Another type of non-verbal communication i would wish to mention will be paralinguistic. Silence communication. I know a bit of sign language and i see a beauty in it. It is gentle and so peaceful. Sometimes i even think that if u were to quarrel using sign language then we won't get angrier because of the tone of the other party. Yesterday, i watch a Hindi love story of a guy who fell in love with a girl who is dumb(cant speak). Her eyes are so scary when she was using sign language to scold the guy. *laughs*
[[bad breathe couple]]communicating through silence. (:
Ok this draws the end of my post.(:
when i entered SIM, I realized that everyone is using their non-verbal communication skills to observe or interact with the surrounding(including myself). Watching how people dress to impress, or dress to be unique. I feel that we seems to know who are dressing to impress or who are just dressing how they normally dress like. People who dress to impress will normally care how people look at them. (eg.they will always let people feel that they are very confident of their looks and care about how other people are looking at them.)
I like to look at pretty girls or girls that bother to dress up, and i seems to be able to conclude that girls that are really very pretty are very humble. They have this charm in them that just attracts you to them. They wont care how people think of them and normally they dont think that they are pretty. (humble right?) Just like people who are models or air stewardess might not be the prettiest girl in their town.
Girls that are not as pretty tend to like attentions. Not all but most. Girls that think that they are pretty. What I admire in them is the confidence they have when they are walking. When people look at them, they believe that people are looking at them because they are pretty. Even when the onlooker is giving the disgusted look about her, she will still thinks that people look at them because they are pretty and charming. (: That leads to perception. Everyone percepts things differently. For example, for what i said in the above paragraph, guys would have another opinion for that. Just like what is your definition of a beauty. (:
[[baby and beauty]] this commercial is from Thailand. i think it is super cute. even babies have perception. (:
Another type of non-verbal communication i would wish to mention will be paralinguistic. Silence communication. I know a bit of sign language and i see a beauty in it. It is gentle and so peaceful. Sometimes i even think that if u were to quarrel using sign language then we won't get angrier because of the tone of the other party. Yesterday, i watch a Hindi love story of a guy who fell in love with a girl who is dumb(cant speak). Her eyes are so scary when she was using sign language to scold the guy. *laughs*
[[bad breathe couple]]communicating through silence. (:
Ok this draws the end of my post.(:
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