we are cultivated since the day we are born. we learn from imitating what other people do and is influenced by what people say. mass media influence our decision making and even thought processes.
when we are all young, we love to watch cartoons. some of us imitate the characters, some of us play games in their language. cartoon is part of media influence. it might not be created by that company but they adopt the cartoon to increase their popularity.
my volunteer work organization (Tzu Chi), had a television station 33 years ago. when it started off as a television station, none of the Taiwanese tune to it. All because it was different. News in Taiwan are all very negative(if u notice), they actually report on anything and everything(politics, neighbor quarreling, other people's family problem). Their drama are all make-up stories or adapt from storybooks.
Tzu Chi television station (Da Ai TV), report global news and they are news that you rarely hear on normal news. Most of it is about the Tzu Chi Volunteers going for international relief, none of it is regarding political news. It is like one of the few news channels that report on good things happening around the world instead of mostly the bad things that is happening. of cos sometimes there will be bad news, bad in the sense that people in that country is suffering because of what the world has done. It's drama are all real life stories of people becoming their volunteers. some are gamblers, some are handicapped, some are people from bad family background. after every episode of the drama, they invite the actors and the real life character to a short talk show and actors will tell the host what they felt after acting the role or when they were acting in a particular scene. they will also ask the character of the real story why did that scene happen and when that happened what were they thinking.
like i said, when it started off in taiwan, few or perhaps none of the Taiwanese who are not a volunteer in the organization watched that channel. nobody adopt that idea. why would people choose such show of no entertainment value?
when i went to taiwan to play, i "channel-surf" on the television. they had a lot of channels, but all of these channels are made up of variety show that doesnt increase our knowledge of the world. u laugh over the show and that's it, that's all.
i stayed in taiwan for about one month during a holiday trip. at first, i watch other channels more than i watch Da Ai TV, but as time goes by, i just got sick of the shows. they all look the same cos all the actors are basically a host for a similar show on another channel. there was a point of time where i got mixed up between two shows. then, i stops watching other channels, i watch Da Ai TV. i watch their news, their drama and their cartoons on sunday and other show which tells me so much more about other countries. there was a series of documentary about a rural area in indonesia where people there earn by collecting bird's nest. it was enriching as it is a knowledge that u can only gain from channels like discovery channel or national geographic channel.
Da Ai TV's dramas was nominated in inspiration dramas. Da Ai TV station was also crowned the most inspiring and a channel that can change a person's life. it is also air on the radio like our tv mobile. directly what is on the TV is being audio-recorded. There are a lot of prisoners who listen to Da Ai Radio everyday in the prison and changed their view of life. many who are released from the prison are volunteers now in taiwan. they never ever will return back to wat they were before and are life examples for many youth in taiwan.
although it is still not a v popular channel in taiwan now, the fact that it can make someone's day better is still agreeable by viewers in taiwan. and these links to a theory we learnt in class, cultivation theory. slowly, the influence of this channel will grow because of the changing world. slowly people are adopting more to the channel because they want to know what good things can happen when every thing is going bad. like for example, currenlty the world is facing financial crisis, ever channel is talking about how everyone is going to suffer, which country is in debt, but Da Ai Tv looked at it in another point of view. it taught people to cut down their expenses and live a simple life with lesser expectations in life.
people who are out of job committed suicide, but da ai tv report on people who are out of job and facing the truth with courage. ( when someone who is thinking of commiting suicide, saw someone in the news courages enough to do what he is thinking, gains more courage to commit suicide) and (when someone who is thinking of commiting sucide, saw someone who step out of a bad situation and continue to lead a meaningful life, drop the idea of commiting suicide.) that's how media can influence us. it can be like a spark who light up at candle for the dark, or it can be that spark that trigger the bomb.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Sunday, March 8, 2009
marriage
recently, me and two friends went to watched a movie called "he is just not that into you". the movie is made up of many small stories that are somehow interconnected. throughout the show we were commenting about the different stages from the Knapp model.
one of the story in the show was about this couple who were together for 7years and the guy didnt ask the girl to marry her. her friend who is always searching for the right partner was being told straight in the face by a guy that "if the guy didnt call you, he is not interested in you. things dont always turn out the same for everyone. if it happen to someone before, they are the exception". she went to told the girl what she heard from the guy, and she got worried that her boyfriend wont marry her. so she went home to ask him whether he will marry her and sadly the guy said no. they broke off at the time when her sister was getting married. after the ceremony, the girl's father was sick, all her brother-in-laws did nothing to help out around the house. they played games and created a mess in the house. her sisters were all so sad because they regretted stepping into a marriage which turn out to be a failure. one day, her boyfriend came to visit, he bought her father's favourite food and help out with washing the dishes which none of her brother-in-law did. that was then she realize that marriage is not so important and that what is more important is that they love each other. so she went to look for him and requested for a reconcile. at that time, the guy has already changed his mindset about getting married with her. but he didnt say it out. there was this pair of pants that the girl didnt let the guy keep. she said that they can move back together but the pants wont be welcome. as they were unpacking their luggage at their house, the girl saw the pants, she wanted to throw it away cos she want to keep to her promise of agreeing to not getting married. the guy had the ring in the pocket. he got her to check the pockets before throwing it away. of cos the girl found the ring and the guy knelt down and proposed to her.
what a sweet story. is marriage really that important? does it means that when someone is with you for a shorter time has higher probability of getting married with you compared to someone who is with you for 7 years? does it means that you will be happier when you are married?
the guy referred marriage to funeral in the show. but in the end he still agree to marrying her. they are together for 7 years and the guy has never ever cheated on the girl. even when they broke off, he didnt look for another girl and he still cared for her like he always did. i love this short story the most because of the loyalty of the guy and how so many things that happened to them make them realized that marriage isnt the most important thing, what is more important is that the two of them love each other.
for me, marriage is just a ceremony to let people know that you two are bonded legally. however it might not be the best path. if the person really love you, even if you are not married, he is willing to go all the way out just for you. what happens if after the marriage and both of you found out that staying loyal to each other is so difficult? and all of a sudden you two have so many differences that each other seems so worthless after the marriage.
what does marriage and relationship means to you?!
one of the story in the show was about this couple who were together for 7years and the guy didnt ask the girl to marry her. her friend who is always searching for the right partner was being told straight in the face by a guy that "if the guy didnt call you, he is not interested in you. things dont always turn out the same for everyone. if it happen to someone before, they are the exception". she went to told the girl what she heard from the guy, and she got worried that her boyfriend wont marry her. so she went home to ask him whether he will marry her and sadly the guy said no. they broke off at the time when her sister was getting married. after the ceremony, the girl's father was sick, all her brother-in-laws did nothing to help out around the house. they played games and created a mess in the house. her sisters were all so sad because they regretted stepping into a marriage which turn out to be a failure. one day, her boyfriend came to visit, he bought her father's favourite food and help out with washing the dishes which none of her brother-in-law did. that was then she realize that marriage is not so important and that what is more important is that they love each other. so she went to look for him and requested for a reconcile. at that time, the guy has already changed his mindset about getting married with her. but he didnt say it out. there was this pair of pants that the girl didnt let the guy keep. she said that they can move back together but the pants wont be welcome. as they were unpacking their luggage at their house, the girl saw the pants, she wanted to throw it away cos she want to keep to her promise of agreeing to not getting married. the guy had the ring in the pocket. he got her to check the pockets before throwing it away. of cos the girl found the ring and the guy knelt down and proposed to her.
what a sweet story. is marriage really that important? does it means that when someone is with you for a shorter time has higher probability of getting married with you compared to someone who is with you for 7 years? does it means that you will be happier when you are married?
the guy referred marriage to funeral in the show. but in the end he still agree to marrying her. they are together for 7 years and the guy has never ever cheated on the girl. even when they broke off, he didnt look for another girl and he still cared for her like he always did. i love this short story the most because of the loyalty of the guy and how so many things that happened to them make them realized that marriage isnt the most important thing, what is more important is that the two of them love each other.
for me, marriage is just a ceremony to let people know that you two are bonded legally. however it might not be the best path. if the person really love you, even if you are not married, he is willing to go all the way out just for you. what happens if after the marriage and both of you found out that staying loyal to each other is so difficult? and all of a sudden you two have so many differences that each other seems so worthless after the marriage.
what does marriage and relationship means to you?!
Sunday, March 1, 2009
groupgroupgroup
everyone exist in a group or society.
a class is a group. friends are a group. what else?
i dun think no one exist in a group.
even if u think u are so anti social, u still have friends, classmates.
according to the textbook, we belong to a group for a purpose. and those purpose seems to be one that you must gain benefits from. i dunno whether i m thinking on the wrong track, but i dun feel that way. at least i dun think i befriend with someone for any purpose that will accomplish my goals or needs. i dun need any commitment from my friend but of course at times i want some support when i m feeling down or facing problems. but that doesn't mean that i want to belong to the group for a benefit or purpose.
i exist in many groups. secondary school, poly, SIM and of course my volunteer work group. (: and in each group, my roles are different. (: among my secondary school friends, i m like a big sister. i m always there for them when they need me. and some times when i need them,they are also there for me. but we didn't get together for a purpose, we are together because we had many things in common. we are like stuck to each other, whether we like it or not. of cos conflicts do happen. (:
to my poly friends, i m someone who is common. nothing special. maybe we do miss each other when we didnt meet for v long, or we can chat all night about things that dont make sense. conflicts seldom happen, maybe it is because we dun meet up much and when we are together, we dun talk about v sensitive topic because we dont interfer each other life that much. however, i do have a friend whom i noe her family well and she knows my family well. we share with each other. she is my "spiritual" friend because of religion. we can talk about almost everything. and we sense that something is not right with each other even before something happen. (:
to my SIM friends, [ :) ] hahas, i dunno what am i to them. now is too early to give any remark to it. (: i believe we felt comfortable with each other that's why we are friends. and maybe we got together because we felt comfortable w each other. and we open up to each other more when we were more comfortable. and maybe we see each other similar to us. (:
to my volunteer work friends. i might be something more. (or maybe that is my wishful thinking). i m a junior and a senior as well. i am a leader, also a member. i hold meetings, i comfort them. i m almost like a everything ( hehe. wishful thinking?) i am there for them whenever i can. i can sense that they are not feeling good or having difficulties when organising activities for the rest. and when i feel that something not good is goin to happen, i will tok to them and comfort them. i believe that's why i feel that i m much mature when i m with them as compared to with other of my friends. they are friends that obviously we got together because we have many similarities. we love to help and we get hurt when we see people of same or different race suffering. i dunno. there are alot of people out there who feel the same as us, but they didnt step out to help. maybe they did. but not committing their life to help. the difference between us and those who help, is that we dedicate our life to helping people. ( i dun even noe am i making sense. just typing wadeva that comes to my mind).
in every group, there are bound to be conflicts and i believe of cos there are people who join a particular group for a purpose. the purpose might be good and might be using the rest of the members in the group. but who are we to judge. i believe everyone has needs, their needs might be riduclous to us. but to them, they had the needs because of their upbring, the way they perceive the world. i think we should accomodate those people because they are quite "sad". i believe if everyone can change a part of their life, then they wont be who they are now. and friends are suppose to be there for each other. even if u dun like the person, when he or she needs u, i dun think u would reject him or her. at least i will help people whom i dun like. not because i wan them to think of me differently. but i think that if u dun help them, who is goin to. if u outcast someone i belive the rest of ur friends will outcast them because u influenced them to do it. i dun want my friends to outcast anyone because of my influenece. i try to treat everyone equally, even if i dun like the person, he or she talks to me or ask me for help, i will try my best to help them too. (:
i think i sidetrack. (: okie. shall stop here.(:
a class is a group. friends are a group. what else?
i dun think no one exist in a group.
even if u think u are so anti social, u still have friends, classmates.
according to the textbook, we belong to a group for a purpose. and those purpose seems to be one that you must gain benefits from. i dunno whether i m thinking on the wrong track, but i dun feel that way. at least i dun think i befriend with someone for any purpose that will accomplish my goals or needs. i dun need any commitment from my friend but of course at times i want some support when i m feeling down or facing problems. but that doesn't mean that i want to belong to the group for a benefit or purpose.
i exist in many groups. secondary school, poly, SIM and of course my volunteer work group. (: and in each group, my roles are different. (: among my secondary school friends, i m like a big sister. i m always there for them when they need me. and some times when i need them,they are also there for me. but we didn't get together for a purpose, we are together because we had many things in common. we are like stuck to each other, whether we like it or not. of cos conflicts do happen. (:
to my poly friends, i m someone who is common. nothing special. maybe we do miss each other when we didnt meet for v long, or we can chat all night about things that dont make sense. conflicts seldom happen, maybe it is because we dun meet up much and when we are together, we dun talk about v sensitive topic because we dont interfer each other life that much. however, i do have a friend whom i noe her family well and she knows my family well. we share with each other. she is my "spiritual" friend because of religion. we can talk about almost everything. and we sense that something is not right with each other even before something happen. (:
to my SIM friends, [ :) ] hahas, i dunno what am i to them. now is too early to give any remark to it. (: i believe we felt comfortable with each other that's why we are friends. and maybe we got together because we felt comfortable w each other. and we open up to each other more when we were more comfortable. and maybe we see each other similar to us. (:
to my volunteer work friends. i might be something more. (or maybe that is my wishful thinking). i m a junior and a senior as well. i am a leader, also a member. i hold meetings, i comfort them. i m almost like a everything ( hehe. wishful thinking?) i am there for them whenever i can. i can sense that they are not feeling good or having difficulties when organising activities for the rest. and when i feel that something not good is goin to happen, i will tok to them and comfort them. i believe that's why i feel that i m much mature when i m with them as compared to with other of my friends. they are friends that obviously we got together because we have many similarities. we love to help and we get hurt when we see people of same or different race suffering. i dunno. there are alot of people out there who feel the same as us, but they didnt step out to help. maybe they did. but not committing their life to help. the difference between us and those who help, is that we dedicate our life to helping people. ( i dun even noe am i making sense. just typing wadeva that comes to my mind).
in every group, there are bound to be conflicts and i believe of cos there are people who join a particular group for a purpose. the purpose might be good and might be using the rest of the members in the group. but who are we to judge. i believe everyone has needs, their needs might be riduclous to us. but to them, they had the needs because of their upbring, the way they perceive the world. i think we should accomodate those people because they are quite "sad". i believe if everyone can change a part of their life, then they wont be who they are now. and friends are suppose to be there for each other. even if u dun like the person, when he or she needs u, i dun think u would reject him or her. at least i will help people whom i dun like. not because i wan them to think of me differently. but i think that if u dun help them, who is goin to. if u outcast someone i belive the rest of ur friends will outcast them because u influenced them to do it. i dun want my friends to outcast anyone because of my influenece. i try to treat everyone equally, even if i dun like the person, he or she talks to me or ask me for help, i will try my best to help them too. (:
i think i sidetrack. (: okie. shall stop here.(:
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