everyone exist in a group or society.
a class is a group. friends are a group. what else?
i dun think no one exist in a group.
even if u think u are so anti social, u still have friends, classmates.
according to the textbook, we belong to a group for a purpose. and those purpose seems to be one that you must gain benefits from. i dunno whether i m thinking on the wrong track, but i dun feel that way. at least i dun think i befriend with someone for any purpose that will accomplish my goals or needs. i dun need any commitment from my friend but of course at times i want some support when i m feeling down or facing problems. but that doesn't mean that i want to belong to the group for a benefit or purpose.
i exist in many groups. secondary school, poly, SIM and of course my volunteer work group. (: and in each group, my roles are different. (: among my secondary school friends, i m like a big sister. i m always there for them when they need me. and some times when i need them,they are also there for me. but we didn't get together for a purpose, we are together because we had many things in common. we are like stuck to each other, whether we like it or not. of cos conflicts do happen. (:
to my poly friends, i m someone who is common. nothing special. maybe we do miss each other when we didnt meet for v long, or we can chat all night about things that dont make sense. conflicts seldom happen, maybe it is because we dun meet up much and when we are together, we dun talk about v sensitive topic because we dont interfer each other life that much. however, i do have a friend whom i noe her family well and she knows my family well. we share with each other. she is my "spiritual" friend because of religion. we can talk about almost everything. and we sense that something is not right with each other even before something happen. (:
to my SIM friends, [ :) ] hahas, i dunno what am i to them. now is too early to give any remark to it. (: i believe we felt comfortable with each other that's why we are friends. and maybe we got together because we felt comfortable w each other. and we open up to each other more when we were more comfortable. and maybe we see each other similar to us. (:
to my volunteer work friends. i might be something more. (or maybe that is my wishful thinking). i m a junior and a senior as well. i am a leader, also a member. i hold meetings, i comfort them. i m almost like a everything ( hehe. wishful thinking?) i am there for them whenever i can. i can sense that they are not feeling good or having difficulties when organising activities for the rest. and when i feel that something not good is goin to happen, i will tok to them and comfort them. i believe that's why i feel that i m much mature when i m with them as compared to with other of my friends. they are friends that obviously we got together because we have many similarities. we love to help and we get hurt when we see people of same or different race suffering. i dunno. there are alot of people out there who feel the same as us, but they didnt step out to help. maybe they did. but not committing their life to help. the difference between us and those who help, is that we dedicate our life to helping people. ( i dun even noe am i making sense. just typing wadeva that comes to my mind).
in every group, there are bound to be conflicts and i believe of cos there are people who join a particular group for a purpose. the purpose might be good and might be using the rest of the members in the group. but who are we to judge. i believe everyone has needs, their needs might be riduclous to us. but to them, they had the needs because of their upbring, the way they perceive the world. i think we should accomodate those people because they are quite "sad". i believe if everyone can change a part of their life, then they wont be who they are now. and friends are suppose to be there for each other. even if u dun like the person, when he or she needs u, i dun think u would reject him or her. at least i will help people whom i dun like. not because i wan them to think of me differently. but i think that if u dun help them, who is goin to. if u outcast someone i belive the rest of ur friends will outcast them because u influenced them to do it. i dun want my friends to outcast anyone because of my influenece. i try to treat everyone equally, even if i dun like the person, he or she talks to me or ask me for help, i will try my best to help them too. (:
i think i sidetrack. (: okie. shall stop here.(:
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we have yet to know more of each other seriously, jamie. :))
ReplyDeletebut i ll have to say it all takes time.
just like you, i do play different roles in my various groups of friends. everyone does.
and of course, there bound to be conflicts. yet, i believe there are times when one should learn to give and take.
i do agree with you. helping those that even you dont like. i wouldnt say they are pathetic, maybe just helpless.
yes. friends should help one another. but probably to a certain extent - just within our own means.
friends are part of our life.
whether we like them or not. its another issue.
and do keep that bubbly character of yours going.
you make me laugh. :))
In SIM i think u are a great person who is vocally strong and capable of many things. You are friendly too so do not worry too much. haha. Oh i do not know you are involved in volunteer work! Nice to hear that you are contributing back to the society =) Where do you help out? Elderly home/Children home?
ReplyDeleteI think you are like a big sister and a leader in SIM (:
ReplyDeleteI had alot of fun working with you on our Communcations project and although we may be from different social groups, our Comms group click pretty well in my opinion (: If only more people thought like you; there are people now who easily brush off others in need of help and think that friends should only come in terms of joy, like "friends with benefits".
Just like you, we all play different social roles in many groups, such as being a son/daughter, a sister/brother and in school, as a friend to our peers (: