we are cultivated since the day we are born. we learn from imitating what other people do and is influenced by what people say. mass media influence our decision making and even thought processes.
when we are all young, we love to watch cartoons. some of us imitate the characters, some of us play games in their language. cartoon is part of media influence. it might not be created by that company but they adopt the cartoon to increase their popularity.
my volunteer work organization (Tzu Chi), had a television station 33 years ago. when it started off as a television station, none of the Taiwanese tune to it. All because it was different. News in Taiwan are all very negative(if u notice), they actually report on anything and everything(politics, neighbor quarreling, other people's family problem). Their drama are all make-up stories or adapt from storybooks.
Tzu Chi television station (Da Ai TV), report global news and they are news that you rarely hear on normal news. Most of it is about the Tzu Chi Volunteers going for international relief, none of it is regarding political news. It is like one of the few news channels that report on good things happening around the world instead of mostly the bad things that is happening. of cos sometimes there will be bad news, bad in the sense that people in that country is suffering because of what the world has done. It's drama are all real life stories of people becoming their volunteers. some are gamblers, some are handicapped, some are people from bad family background. after every episode of the drama, they invite the actors and the real life character to a short talk show and actors will tell the host what they felt after acting the role or when they were acting in a particular scene. they will also ask the character of the real story why did that scene happen and when that happened what were they thinking.
like i said, when it started off in taiwan, few or perhaps none of the Taiwanese who are not a volunteer in the organization watched that channel. nobody adopt that idea. why would people choose such show of no entertainment value?
when i went to taiwan to play, i "channel-surf" on the television. they had a lot of channels, but all of these channels are made up of variety show that doesnt increase our knowledge of the world. u laugh over the show and that's it, that's all.
i stayed in taiwan for about one month during a holiday trip. at first, i watch other channels more than i watch Da Ai TV, but as time goes by, i just got sick of the shows. they all look the same cos all the actors are basically a host for a similar show on another channel. there was a point of time where i got mixed up between two shows. then, i stops watching other channels, i watch Da Ai TV. i watch their news, their drama and their cartoons on sunday and other show which tells me so much more about other countries. there was a series of documentary about a rural area in indonesia where people there earn by collecting bird's nest. it was enriching as it is a knowledge that u can only gain from channels like discovery channel or national geographic channel.
Da Ai TV's dramas was nominated in inspiration dramas. Da Ai TV station was also crowned the most inspiring and a channel that can change a person's life. it is also air on the radio like our tv mobile. directly what is on the TV is being audio-recorded. There are a lot of prisoners who listen to Da Ai Radio everyday in the prison and changed their view of life. many who are released from the prison are volunteers now in taiwan. they never ever will return back to wat they were before and are life examples for many youth in taiwan.
although it is still not a v popular channel in taiwan now, the fact that it can make someone's day better is still agreeable by viewers in taiwan. and these links to a theory we learnt in class, cultivation theory. slowly, the influence of this channel will grow because of the changing world. slowly people are adopting more to the channel because they want to know what good things can happen when every thing is going bad. like for example, currenlty the world is facing financial crisis, ever channel is talking about how everyone is going to suffer, which country is in debt, but Da Ai Tv looked at it in another point of view. it taught people to cut down their expenses and live a simple life with lesser expectations in life.
people who are out of job committed suicide, but da ai tv report on people who are out of job and facing the truth with courage. ( when someone who is thinking of commiting suicide, saw someone in the news courages enough to do what he is thinking, gains more courage to commit suicide) and (when someone who is thinking of commiting sucide, saw someone who step out of a bad situation and continue to lead a meaningful life, drop the idea of commiting suicide.) that's how media can influence us. it can be like a spark who light up at candle for the dark, or it can be that spark that trigger the bomb.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Sunday, March 8, 2009
marriage
recently, me and two friends went to watched a movie called "he is just not that into you". the movie is made up of many small stories that are somehow interconnected. throughout the show we were commenting about the different stages from the Knapp model.
one of the story in the show was about this couple who were together for 7years and the guy didnt ask the girl to marry her. her friend who is always searching for the right partner was being told straight in the face by a guy that "if the guy didnt call you, he is not interested in you. things dont always turn out the same for everyone. if it happen to someone before, they are the exception". she went to told the girl what she heard from the guy, and she got worried that her boyfriend wont marry her. so she went home to ask him whether he will marry her and sadly the guy said no. they broke off at the time when her sister was getting married. after the ceremony, the girl's father was sick, all her brother-in-laws did nothing to help out around the house. they played games and created a mess in the house. her sisters were all so sad because they regretted stepping into a marriage which turn out to be a failure. one day, her boyfriend came to visit, he bought her father's favourite food and help out with washing the dishes which none of her brother-in-law did. that was then she realize that marriage is not so important and that what is more important is that they love each other. so she went to look for him and requested for a reconcile. at that time, the guy has already changed his mindset about getting married with her. but he didnt say it out. there was this pair of pants that the girl didnt let the guy keep. she said that they can move back together but the pants wont be welcome. as they were unpacking their luggage at their house, the girl saw the pants, she wanted to throw it away cos she want to keep to her promise of agreeing to not getting married. the guy had the ring in the pocket. he got her to check the pockets before throwing it away. of cos the girl found the ring and the guy knelt down and proposed to her.
what a sweet story. is marriage really that important? does it means that when someone is with you for a shorter time has higher probability of getting married with you compared to someone who is with you for 7 years? does it means that you will be happier when you are married?
the guy referred marriage to funeral in the show. but in the end he still agree to marrying her. they are together for 7 years and the guy has never ever cheated on the girl. even when they broke off, he didnt look for another girl and he still cared for her like he always did. i love this short story the most because of the loyalty of the guy and how so many things that happened to them make them realized that marriage isnt the most important thing, what is more important is that the two of them love each other.
for me, marriage is just a ceremony to let people know that you two are bonded legally. however it might not be the best path. if the person really love you, even if you are not married, he is willing to go all the way out just for you. what happens if after the marriage and both of you found out that staying loyal to each other is so difficult? and all of a sudden you two have so many differences that each other seems so worthless after the marriage.
what does marriage and relationship means to you?!
one of the story in the show was about this couple who were together for 7years and the guy didnt ask the girl to marry her. her friend who is always searching for the right partner was being told straight in the face by a guy that "if the guy didnt call you, he is not interested in you. things dont always turn out the same for everyone. if it happen to someone before, they are the exception". she went to told the girl what she heard from the guy, and she got worried that her boyfriend wont marry her. so she went home to ask him whether he will marry her and sadly the guy said no. they broke off at the time when her sister was getting married. after the ceremony, the girl's father was sick, all her brother-in-laws did nothing to help out around the house. they played games and created a mess in the house. her sisters were all so sad because they regretted stepping into a marriage which turn out to be a failure. one day, her boyfriend came to visit, he bought her father's favourite food and help out with washing the dishes which none of her brother-in-law did. that was then she realize that marriage is not so important and that what is more important is that they love each other. so she went to look for him and requested for a reconcile. at that time, the guy has already changed his mindset about getting married with her. but he didnt say it out. there was this pair of pants that the girl didnt let the guy keep. she said that they can move back together but the pants wont be welcome. as they were unpacking their luggage at their house, the girl saw the pants, she wanted to throw it away cos she want to keep to her promise of agreeing to not getting married. the guy had the ring in the pocket. he got her to check the pockets before throwing it away. of cos the girl found the ring and the guy knelt down and proposed to her.
what a sweet story. is marriage really that important? does it means that when someone is with you for a shorter time has higher probability of getting married with you compared to someone who is with you for 7 years? does it means that you will be happier when you are married?
the guy referred marriage to funeral in the show. but in the end he still agree to marrying her. they are together for 7 years and the guy has never ever cheated on the girl. even when they broke off, he didnt look for another girl and he still cared for her like he always did. i love this short story the most because of the loyalty of the guy and how so many things that happened to them make them realized that marriage isnt the most important thing, what is more important is that the two of them love each other.
for me, marriage is just a ceremony to let people know that you two are bonded legally. however it might not be the best path. if the person really love you, even if you are not married, he is willing to go all the way out just for you. what happens if after the marriage and both of you found out that staying loyal to each other is so difficult? and all of a sudden you two have so many differences that each other seems so worthless after the marriage.
what does marriage and relationship means to you?!
Sunday, March 1, 2009
groupgroupgroup
everyone exist in a group or society.
a class is a group. friends are a group. what else?
i dun think no one exist in a group.
even if u think u are so anti social, u still have friends, classmates.
according to the textbook, we belong to a group for a purpose. and those purpose seems to be one that you must gain benefits from. i dunno whether i m thinking on the wrong track, but i dun feel that way. at least i dun think i befriend with someone for any purpose that will accomplish my goals or needs. i dun need any commitment from my friend but of course at times i want some support when i m feeling down or facing problems. but that doesn't mean that i want to belong to the group for a benefit or purpose.
i exist in many groups. secondary school, poly, SIM and of course my volunteer work group. (: and in each group, my roles are different. (: among my secondary school friends, i m like a big sister. i m always there for them when they need me. and some times when i need them,they are also there for me. but we didn't get together for a purpose, we are together because we had many things in common. we are like stuck to each other, whether we like it or not. of cos conflicts do happen. (:
to my poly friends, i m someone who is common. nothing special. maybe we do miss each other when we didnt meet for v long, or we can chat all night about things that dont make sense. conflicts seldom happen, maybe it is because we dun meet up much and when we are together, we dun talk about v sensitive topic because we dont interfer each other life that much. however, i do have a friend whom i noe her family well and she knows my family well. we share with each other. she is my "spiritual" friend because of religion. we can talk about almost everything. and we sense that something is not right with each other even before something happen. (:
to my SIM friends, [ :) ] hahas, i dunno what am i to them. now is too early to give any remark to it. (: i believe we felt comfortable with each other that's why we are friends. and maybe we got together because we felt comfortable w each other. and we open up to each other more when we were more comfortable. and maybe we see each other similar to us. (:
to my volunteer work friends. i might be something more. (or maybe that is my wishful thinking). i m a junior and a senior as well. i am a leader, also a member. i hold meetings, i comfort them. i m almost like a everything ( hehe. wishful thinking?) i am there for them whenever i can. i can sense that they are not feeling good or having difficulties when organising activities for the rest. and when i feel that something not good is goin to happen, i will tok to them and comfort them. i believe that's why i feel that i m much mature when i m with them as compared to with other of my friends. they are friends that obviously we got together because we have many similarities. we love to help and we get hurt when we see people of same or different race suffering. i dunno. there are alot of people out there who feel the same as us, but they didnt step out to help. maybe they did. but not committing their life to help. the difference between us and those who help, is that we dedicate our life to helping people. ( i dun even noe am i making sense. just typing wadeva that comes to my mind).
in every group, there are bound to be conflicts and i believe of cos there are people who join a particular group for a purpose. the purpose might be good and might be using the rest of the members in the group. but who are we to judge. i believe everyone has needs, their needs might be riduclous to us. but to them, they had the needs because of their upbring, the way they perceive the world. i think we should accomodate those people because they are quite "sad". i believe if everyone can change a part of their life, then they wont be who they are now. and friends are suppose to be there for each other. even if u dun like the person, when he or she needs u, i dun think u would reject him or her. at least i will help people whom i dun like. not because i wan them to think of me differently. but i think that if u dun help them, who is goin to. if u outcast someone i belive the rest of ur friends will outcast them because u influenced them to do it. i dun want my friends to outcast anyone because of my influenece. i try to treat everyone equally, even if i dun like the person, he or she talks to me or ask me for help, i will try my best to help them too. (:
i think i sidetrack. (: okie. shall stop here.(:
a class is a group. friends are a group. what else?
i dun think no one exist in a group.
even if u think u are so anti social, u still have friends, classmates.
according to the textbook, we belong to a group for a purpose. and those purpose seems to be one that you must gain benefits from. i dunno whether i m thinking on the wrong track, but i dun feel that way. at least i dun think i befriend with someone for any purpose that will accomplish my goals or needs. i dun need any commitment from my friend but of course at times i want some support when i m feeling down or facing problems. but that doesn't mean that i want to belong to the group for a benefit or purpose.
i exist in many groups. secondary school, poly, SIM and of course my volunteer work group. (: and in each group, my roles are different. (: among my secondary school friends, i m like a big sister. i m always there for them when they need me. and some times when i need them,they are also there for me. but we didn't get together for a purpose, we are together because we had many things in common. we are like stuck to each other, whether we like it or not. of cos conflicts do happen. (:
to my poly friends, i m someone who is common. nothing special. maybe we do miss each other when we didnt meet for v long, or we can chat all night about things that dont make sense. conflicts seldom happen, maybe it is because we dun meet up much and when we are together, we dun talk about v sensitive topic because we dont interfer each other life that much. however, i do have a friend whom i noe her family well and she knows my family well. we share with each other. she is my "spiritual" friend because of religion. we can talk about almost everything. and we sense that something is not right with each other even before something happen. (:
to my SIM friends, [ :) ] hahas, i dunno what am i to them. now is too early to give any remark to it. (: i believe we felt comfortable with each other that's why we are friends. and maybe we got together because we felt comfortable w each other. and we open up to each other more when we were more comfortable. and maybe we see each other similar to us. (:
to my volunteer work friends. i might be something more. (or maybe that is my wishful thinking). i m a junior and a senior as well. i am a leader, also a member. i hold meetings, i comfort them. i m almost like a everything ( hehe. wishful thinking?) i am there for them whenever i can. i can sense that they are not feeling good or having difficulties when organising activities for the rest. and when i feel that something not good is goin to happen, i will tok to them and comfort them. i believe that's why i feel that i m much mature when i m with them as compared to with other of my friends. they are friends that obviously we got together because we have many similarities. we love to help and we get hurt when we see people of same or different race suffering. i dunno. there are alot of people out there who feel the same as us, but they didnt step out to help. maybe they did. but not committing their life to help. the difference between us and those who help, is that we dedicate our life to helping people. ( i dun even noe am i making sense. just typing wadeva that comes to my mind).
in every group, there are bound to be conflicts and i believe of cos there are people who join a particular group for a purpose. the purpose might be good and might be using the rest of the members in the group. but who are we to judge. i believe everyone has needs, their needs might be riduclous to us. but to them, they had the needs because of their upbring, the way they perceive the world. i think we should accomodate those people because they are quite "sad". i believe if everyone can change a part of their life, then they wont be who they are now. and friends are suppose to be there for each other. even if u dun like the person, when he or she needs u, i dun think u would reject him or her. at least i will help people whom i dun like. not because i wan them to think of me differently. but i think that if u dun help them, who is goin to. if u outcast someone i belive the rest of ur friends will outcast them because u influenced them to do it. i dun want my friends to outcast anyone because of my influenece. i try to treat everyone equally, even if i dun like the person, he or she talks to me or ask me for help, i will try my best to help them too. (:
i think i sidetrack. (: okie. shall stop here.(:
Sunday, February 22, 2009
mass media
mass media really influence our daily life alot. (:
i am like glued to the televsion once i reach home. (:
and when was in secondary school, my friends and i would always learn songs sung on advertisments. it was so fun. (: we even create our own advertisment (live ones) in class. haha. we can advertise for anything and everything that we want to. and we learn all these from the media.
true that we choose things that benefits us from the media. those that doesnt affect us doesnt influence. sometimes we wont believe that a piece of news is true because it is not happening to us.
media also filter too many news, which might be important to us. they refuse to let us know because they dun wan it to affect our thinking. and this make us exposed lesser to the "outside world".
luckily there is internet, where you can read news from all over the world. and the more you are exposed to, really makes you fear more. and living in this kind of fear is sometimes good and sometimes bad. it makes you either cherish more or fear more. like news of how many people around the world is starving. it doesn't affect us directly because we dunno what is it like to be starving, but, it does makes u cherish more. cherish whatever we have in singapore.
before i joined my volunteer work, i am someone who don't watch news, i dun care about what is happenin to singapore, and of course in other countries. then after i joined my volunteer work, i saw so many things happening around the world that i nv know. at first i didnt think about it, because i wasnt affected directly. but as i saw more and more news, i start to fear and cherish more. i cherish the fact that i live in singapore. in singapore, we didnt have to worry about natural disasters, we have food to it, we have shelter over our head, we can get what we want. but it made me fear, because i also know that global warming is affecting every country. whetether u are rich or whether you are poor. what have the poor done to suffer what the rich has done wrong. fear that singapore, a country that hasnt been through anything at all, to suffer because of being naive and being blinded.
it is good to live in "good fear", because you learn to find solutions and take actions instead of sitting there and wait for things to happen and regret.
the medium the media used also affect the way we see the world and affect how we perceive what is more important than the other. comparing an advertisement advertised on TV and on a small corner of the newspaper, the one on the TV would definitely attract us more. and we will remember the company and the more it is advertised, it make us think that "that brand seems to be a better brand". that might not be true, but people who have no knowledge about the product will think that way. although now we wont be so "silly" anymore because we research before we buy anything. (:
if u dun read up more, you will always think that whatever the media is saying are the only things that are happening. i use to think that PAP is the only political party in singapore. they control everything. and all great people comes from this party. which is so naive. because i didnt bother to read up. but when i grow up. i realise that actually quite alot of pple support opposition party as well. and views suggested by them might not be bad, but people jus dun wan to accept them because they are not the one controlling singapore.
mass media is created for good cause because it let us know what is happening in the world around us. but i also think that it is something bad, becuase whatever we know might not be true. and this lead us to discriminate a race, nation who are actually great nation or great people. (:
i am like glued to the televsion once i reach home. (:
and when was in secondary school, my friends and i would always learn songs sung on advertisments. it was so fun. (: we even create our own advertisment (live ones) in class. haha. we can advertise for anything and everything that we want to. and we learn all these from the media.
true that we choose things that benefits us from the media. those that doesnt affect us doesnt influence. sometimes we wont believe that a piece of news is true because it is not happening to us.
media also filter too many news, which might be important to us. they refuse to let us know because they dun wan it to affect our thinking. and this make us exposed lesser to the "outside world".
luckily there is internet, where you can read news from all over the world. and the more you are exposed to, really makes you fear more. and living in this kind of fear is sometimes good and sometimes bad. it makes you either cherish more or fear more. like news of how many people around the world is starving. it doesn't affect us directly because we dunno what is it like to be starving, but, it does makes u cherish more. cherish whatever we have in singapore.
before i joined my volunteer work, i am someone who don't watch news, i dun care about what is happenin to singapore, and of course in other countries. then after i joined my volunteer work, i saw so many things happening around the world that i nv know. at first i didnt think about it, because i wasnt affected directly. but as i saw more and more news, i start to fear and cherish more. i cherish the fact that i live in singapore. in singapore, we didnt have to worry about natural disasters, we have food to it, we have shelter over our head, we can get what we want. but it made me fear, because i also know that global warming is affecting every country. whetether u are rich or whether you are poor. what have the poor done to suffer what the rich has done wrong. fear that singapore, a country that hasnt been through anything at all, to suffer because of being naive and being blinded.
it is good to live in "good fear", because you learn to find solutions and take actions instead of sitting there and wait for things to happen and regret.
the medium the media used also affect the way we see the world and affect how we perceive what is more important than the other. comparing an advertisement advertised on TV and on a small corner of the newspaper, the one on the TV would definitely attract us more. and we will remember the company and the more it is advertised, it make us think that "that brand seems to be a better brand". that might not be true, but people who have no knowledge about the product will think that way. although now we wont be so "silly" anymore because we research before we buy anything. (:
if u dun read up more, you will always think that whatever the media is saying are the only things that are happening. i use to think that PAP is the only political party in singapore. they control everything. and all great people comes from this party. which is so naive. because i didnt bother to read up. but when i grow up. i realise that actually quite alot of pple support opposition party as well. and views suggested by them might not be bad, but people jus dun wan to accept them because they are not the one controlling singapore.
mass media is created for good cause because it let us know what is happening in the world around us. but i also think that it is something bad, becuase whatever we know might not be true. and this lead us to discriminate a race, nation who are actually great nation or great people. (:
Sunday, February 15, 2009
interpersonal communication.
I guess this is the topic everyone will be so interested in in class.
Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.
Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating
well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?
Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.
And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.
It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:
[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original MTV. it is with images of all the Disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.
Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating
well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?
Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.
And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.
It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:
[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original MTV. it is with images of all the Disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Non-verbal communication
non-verbal communication is not something that is new to us. in our everyday life we are using it to "communicate" with our friends or to strangers. just like when you are in the cinema and somebody's phone started ringing, then you will STARE at him/her to substitute your verbal message that "you are so inconsiderate".
when i entered SIM, I realized that everyone is using their non-verbal communication skills to observe or interact with the surrounding(including myself). Watching how people dress to impress, or dress to be unique. I feel that we seems to know who are dressing to impress or who are just dressing how they normally dress like. People who dress to impress will normally care how people look at them. (eg.they will always let people feel that they are very confident of their looks and care about how other people are looking at them.)
I like to look at pretty girls or girls that bother to dress up, and i seems to be able to conclude that girls that are really very pretty are very humble. They have this charm in them that just attracts you to them. They wont care how people think of them and normally they dont think that they are pretty. (humble right?) Just like people who are models or air stewardess might not be the prettiest girl in their town.
Girls that are not as pretty tend to like attentions. Not all but most. Girls that think that they are pretty. What I admire in them is the confidence they have when they are walking. When people look at them, they believe that people are looking at them because they are pretty. Even when the onlooker is giving the disgusted look about her, she will still thinks that people look at them because they are pretty and charming. (: That leads to perception. Everyone percepts things differently. For example, for what i said in the above paragraph, guys would have another opinion for that. Just like what is your definition of a beauty. (:
[[baby and beauty]] this commercial is from Thailand. i think it is super cute. even babies have perception. (:
Another type of non-verbal communication i would wish to mention will be paralinguistic. Silence communication. I know a bit of sign language and i see a beauty in it. It is gentle and so peaceful. Sometimes i even think that if u were to quarrel using sign language then we won't get angrier because of the tone of the other party. Yesterday, i watch a Hindi love story of a guy who fell in love with a girl who is dumb(cant speak). Her eyes are so scary when she was using sign language to scold the guy. *laughs*
[[bad breathe couple]]communicating through silence. (:
Ok this draws the end of my post.(:
when i entered SIM, I realized that everyone is using their non-verbal communication skills to observe or interact with the surrounding(including myself). Watching how people dress to impress, or dress to be unique. I feel that we seems to know who are dressing to impress or who are just dressing how they normally dress like. People who dress to impress will normally care how people look at them. (eg.they will always let people feel that they are very confident of their looks and care about how other people are looking at them.)
I like to look at pretty girls or girls that bother to dress up, and i seems to be able to conclude that girls that are really very pretty are very humble. They have this charm in them that just attracts you to them. They wont care how people think of them and normally they dont think that they are pretty. (humble right?) Just like people who are models or air stewardess might not be the prettiest girl in their town.
Girls that are not as pretty tend to like attentions. Not all but most. Girls that think that they are pretty. What I admire in them is the confidence they have when they are walking. When people look at them, they believe that people are looking at them because they are pretty. Even when the onlooker is giving the disgusted look about her, she will still thinks that people look at them because they are pretty and charming. (: That leads to perception. Everyone percepts things differently. For example, for what i said in the above paragraph, guys would have another opinion for that. Just like what is your definition of a beauty. (:
[[baby and beauty]] this commercial is from Thailand. i think it is super cute. even babies have perception. (:
Another type of non-verbal communication i would wish to mention will be paralinguistic. Silence communication. I know a bit of sign language and i see a beauty in it. It is gentle and so peaceful. Sometimes i even think that if u were to quarrel using sign language then we won't get angrier because of the tone of the other party. Yesterday, i watch a Hindi love story of a guy who fell in love with a girl who is dumb(cant speak). Her eyes are so scary when she was using sign language to scold the guy. *laughs*
[[bad breathe couple]]communicating through silence. (:
Ok this draws the end of my post.(:
Sunday, January 25, 2009
communication?! (:
COMMUNICATE! as my blog heading says.
What does communication means to you?
When we need to start a blog for this module, most of my classmates already had an exisiting blog. Well, I don't remember that I had a blog~ (: because I don't communicate using LINEAR means. (: which means I seldom blog even though i use to have a blog, I seldom chat on MSN even though I have a MSN account. I reject or neglect invitations on facebook. But that doesn't mean that I dun communicate~ (:
When I was young i go for what is cool~ (meaning IRC, ICQ, MSN, Friendster, Facebook). Now i realize that i don't really have time for that, (studies, friends, volunteer work.................) all those are taking all of my times and i reach home so late that when i go online no one will be there to COMMUNICATE with me. LOL~
Don't be frighten by my blog address (you-better-comment). It doesn't post any threat that all who visit must comment. (: I just thought of this blog address since comments are used to graded us (COM101 students). (: hoping people will drop by.
communicating is part of our life every day. when we go to school, we talk to our friends, that is communicating. but it doesn't means we talk to everyone we see. because there are times our first impression of someone tells us that he/she is not "your kind". Then we step back from them and try to avoid talking to them just because we know they won't "make our day".
I come from a globalized volunteer work organization. Communicating with my friends worldwide is very different from communicating from friends in Singapore. When it is my day time, it could be their night time. When I am so used to typing English in online chatrooms, they are typing traditional chinese. But that didn't stop us from being friends. We try to put in effort to meet each other online and chat for an hour or so. We meet up each other once a year in Taiwan and we are still so close.
Communicating can do wonders. It can change our mindset and make us feel good.
My volunteer work has a TV channel in taiwan. Yup!~ It started as a small and humble TV station where no one view it(even though it is free). As technology started to improvised, our TV channel gained popularity. It has drama, just like all TV channels has, but their drama are real life experiences of people. They were norminated for awards and won a few. The dramas are not made up stories and some people who watch it, felt that it is a good influence for all ages. Everyone can watch the show, no age limit.
Of course they also have news. One thing different from theirs news and other tv channel news in taiwan is that they don't report things that are nonsensical (you know? taiwan news are so stupid~ it is like relationship between in-laws are reported). Their news bring peace and knowledge to pubic(meaningful and useful).
As the technology advanced and there are more volunteer worldwide, putting the channel on TV wasn't enough. Worldwide volunteers wants to view it and wants to know what is the latest show on the channel. So, it is now on the internet as well. (: (if you all wants the website to see how different it is, can get it from me. (: )
Technology improved the way we can communicate. From linear to transactional.
because of how it has improvised, we can communicate to friends and relative from all over the world. I can feel it as my brother is workin in Japan now. The easiest way to communicate is to go on msn or Skype. Skype is like a 3G handphone, FREE!
But I always have a doubt. Did this improvised technology make us more lazy? When I was young and got no handphone, I can memorize my friend's number. I make an effort to call them and tell them a message directly so that miscommunication won't occur. (: But because of how we abuse this improvision, we became very lazy and didn't care about whether the other party get our message correctly. If the objective of communication is to get the message correctly to the other party, then is there a loophole? Because sms-ing someone doesn't contain our tone, using msn to chat also doesn't contain our tone as well. Only voice and face-to-face communication is the most true communication. Even though miscommunication can also occur, but the chances are lower. (might be a person's communication skills or socializing skill).
what are your views about this then?
What does communication means to you?
When we need to start a blog for this module, most of my classmates already had an exisiting blog. Well, I don't remember that I had a blog~ (: because I don't communicate using LINEAR means. (: which means I seldom blog even though i use to have a blog, I seldom chat on MSN even though I have a MSN account. I reject or neglect invitations on facebook. But that doesn't mean that I dun communicate~ (:
When I was young i go for what is cool~ (meaning IRC, ICQ, MSN, Friendster, Facebook). Now i realize that i don't really have time for that, (studies, friends, volunteer work.................) all those are taking all of my times and i reach home so late that when i go online no one will be there to COMMUNICATE with me. LOL~
Don't be frighten by my blog address (you-better-comment). It doesn't post any threat that all who visit must comment. (: I just thought of this blog address since comments are used to graded us (COM101 students). (: hoping people will drop by.
communicating is part of our life every day. when we go to school, we talk to our friends, that is communicating. but it doesn't means we talk to everyone we see. because there are times our first impression of someone tells us that he/she is not "your kind". Then we step back from them and try to avoid talking to them just because we know they won't "make our day".
I come from a globalized volunteer work organization. Communicating with my friends worldwide is very different from communicating from friends in Singapore. When it is my day time, it could be their night time. When I am so used to typing English in online chatrooms, they are typing traditional chinese. But that didn't stop us from being friends. We try to put in effort to meet each other online and chat for an hour or so. We meet up each other once a year in Taiwan and we are still so close.
Communicating can do wonders. It can change our mindset and make us feel good.
My volunteer work has a TV channel in taiwan. Yup!~ It started as a small and humble TV station where no one view it(even though it is free). As technology started to improvised, our TV channel gained popularity. It has drama, just like all TV channels has, but their drama are real life experiences of people. They were norminated for awards and won a few. The dramas are not made up stories and some people who watch it, felt that it is a good influence for all ages. Everyone can watch the show, no age limit.
Of course they also have news. One thing different from theirs news and other tv channel news in taiwan is that they don't report things that are nonsensical (you know? taiwan news are so stupid~ it is like relationship between in-laws are reported). Their news bring peace and knowledge to pubic(meaningful and useful).
As the technology advanced and there are more volunteer worldwide, putting the channel on TV wasn't enough. Worldwide volunteers wants to view it and wants to know what is the latest show on the channel. So, it is now on the internet as well. (: (if you all wants the website to see how different it is, can get it from me. (: )
Technology improved the way we can communicate. From linear to transactional.
because of how it has improvised, we can communicate to friends and relative from all over the world. I can feel it as my brother is workin in Japan now. The easiest way to communicate is to go on msn or Skype. Skype is like a 3G handphone, FREE!
But I always have a doubt. Did this improvised technology make us more lazy? When I was young and got no handphone, I can memorize my friend's number. I make an effort to call them and tell them a message directly so that miscommunication won't occur. (: But because of how we abuse this improvision, we became very lazy and didn't care about whether the other party get our message correctly. If the objective of communication is to get the message correctly to the other party, then is there a loophole? Because sms-ing someone doesn't contain our tone, using msn to chat also doesn't contain our tone as well. Only voice and face-to-face communication is the most true communication. Even though miscommunication can also occur, but the chances are lower. (might be a person's communication skills or socializing skill).
what are your views about this then?
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